just found the following !!!
I have installed also community builder, and the ANTI-SPAM function !!
This is the problem ....so actually MY problem ....but i hope this issue will/might help others also to find the solution.
The anti-spam and your protection software work hand in hand and dont exclude eachother(hopefully i can make myself clear) , this generated all kind of protections ....which might block or brings blockings
So sorry for my topic ...maybe it should be rewritten and used as a solution ?